The holiday season is a time of joy, family gatherings, and excitement. For children, particularly those aged 0 to 5, it’s a period filled with new experiences—meeting relatives, special meals, and bright decorations. But as wonderful as the holidays can be, they often disrupt the regular routines that young children thrive on, particularly when it comes to sleep. During this festive time, parents face the challenge of maintaining healthy sleep habits for their little ones while also participating in the season's celebrations. They often find themselves wondering “should I skip dinner in order to make it to a normal bedtime?” and wondering about the consequences of that decision.
In this blog post, we’ll explore why structure before the holidays can help create flexible sleep schedules, which are essential for children during the holidays. We’ll also discuss how to maintain a healthy balance between flexibility and routine, and tips to ensure your child remains well-rested even amidst the chaos of holiday events.
Before discussing flexibility, it is important to understand why sleep is such a fundamental part of a child’s development. Sleep plays a vital role in early childhood for many reasons:
Given the critical nature of sleep, it’s easy to see why some parents favor a strict sleep schedule. However, I love teaching families that structure actually promotes flexibility when necessary. The holidays can pose unique challenges that make flexibility a valuable asset, and there is no better time to practice than during this season.
No parent wants to be a grinch and skip out on holiday activities for the sake of a nap. Besides- can’t you already feel the eyerolls from Great Aunt Debbie when you say you’re missing the annual Christmas Tree cutting because Tommy needs to nap at noon? The holiday season is just not conducive to maintaining rigid routines, especially for families with young children.
Holiday parties, family visits, travel, and the overall excitement of the season can cause unavoidable disruptions in regular sleep schedules. While maintaining some consistency is important, rigidly adhering to the exact same schedule might cause more stress than flexibility would.
Here are some common disruptions to sleep that occur during the holidays:
Recognizing these challenges helps parents approach the holiday season with more realistic expectations and a flexible mindset when it comes to sleep.
Flexibility is key during the holiday season. If your children are well-rested, have strong sleep skills, and are generally sleeping through the night and taking solid naps, I promise they will adjust to less structure when necessary. Think about it this way: a child who consistently meets their sleep needs is not going to go into complete meltdown mode because of a few short naps or a later bedtime. Sure, they may be crankier than usual or find it more difficult to fall asleep, but they will not lose the skill of independent sleep because of a late family dinner.
This is why I encourage families to establish independent sleep skills and structure at least 2-3 weeks before the holiday season begins. Not only will you be able to enjoy better sleep during this busy time of year, but your child will be able to better handle changes in their routine. Maintaining a flexible sleep schedule during the holiday season can offer several benefits for both the child and the family:
While flexibility is important, it’s equally essential not to let sleep schedules completely unravel. Sleep disruptions can lead to overtiredness, crankiness, and even behavioral issues if they persist for too long. Therefore, finding the right balance between flexibility and structure is key. I generally guide parents to follow the 80/20 rule: 80% of your child’s week should follow their schedule and sleep environment while the other 20% should be flexible. Here are some tips for maintaining that balance:
If you know you have a late event coming up, plan your child’s day to accommodate this. For example, shift their naptime to be 30-60 minutes later, in order to help prevent overtiredness around their typical bedtime. Allow them to take a quick catnap on the way to the family event, in order to give them a second wind. If at all possible, try to prioritize their nap the next day to catch them up on any missed sleep. By building in extra rest time before and after big events, you can minimize the impact of a late bedtime.
If you’re traveling or staying at someone else’s house, try to recreate a familiar sleep environment for your child. Bring along their favorite blanket, stuffed animal, white noise machine, and blackout curtains. Spend time hanging out in the room when it is not sleeping time, to familiarize them with the space. Don’t be afraid to stay in the room while they fall asleep, even if this is not your usual practice. These tips can help signal to your child that it’s time to sleep, even in an unfamiliar setting.
Holidays can be unpredictable, but naps are often your best friend. Try to ensure your child gets a nap even if it’s not at the regular time or in their regular environment. A short car nap or stroller nap can help your child recharge and prevent overtiredness. If your child is young enough to be cuddled during a nap, task a family member with that job. You know they’ll love the snuggles, plus you’ll free up some time to enjoy the festivities!
While your child’s exact sleep times may vary during the holidays, try to keep certain elements of their sleep routine the same. Whether it’s reading a book before bed, singing a lullaby, or dimming the lights, these consistent signals can help your child wind down and fall asleep more easily, even if bedtime is later than usual.
Pay close attention to your child’s sleep cues, such as rubbing their eyes, yawning, or becoming fussy. These signs indicate that it’s time for sleep, and by responding to them, you can help prevent overtiredness and avoid meltdowns.
Once the holiday season comes to an end, it’s important to re-establish a consistent sleep routine. On your first full day of your return to normalcy, reestablish your sleep rules and your child’s normal sleep schedule. Making a firm transition back to your structured routine is key to preventing new habits from being established.
The holidays are a special time for families, but they often bring changes to daily routines, including sleep schedules for young children. While it’s important to prioritize sleep, being flexible with your child’s schedule during the holiday season can reduce stress, improve family bonding, and help your child adapt to new environments. By planning ahead and maintaining certain aspects of the sleep routine, parents can strike a balance between flexibility and structure, ensuring that their child stays well-rested throughout the festivities.
Sarah Bossio
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